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I have everything except the essentials. Comfortable homes, parents with successful careers, all home technology available in the market, brand clothes, pocket money, quirks ... But something is missing. Urban adolescents from families of middle and upper middle class began to fill the consultations social psychologists and pediatricians suffering from the evil of solitude. Has grown almost on their own, by non-family caregivers, and parents employed full time to maintain social status, lack of time that they demand. The consequences are often perverse: conduct disorders, aggressiveness, constant clashes with parents ... And also a worrying tendency to isolation. So much so that some teenagers have begun to be labeled at risk and protected floor temporarily sent by the Administration.

is an unusual circumstance, because such centers, with capacity for about half a dozen teenage boys and girls, assisted by psychologists and social workers, have so far only been inhabited by kids from dysfunctional families, those in which the parents are in prison, or sick with no means of subsistence, unemployed and drug addicts with no future in the broad sense, most alcoholics. Now, however, begin to share a room with rich teens whom no one could have imagined under the care of social services in the regions. The link between them is homelessness.

In some cases, the parents delegate the management problem, in others it is still opting for the internship, depending on their membership in the high or low level of the middle class. According to experts, both forms of alienation of the child's conflicting home is given more and more frequently and at younger ages emerges.

These antisocial behaviors are due to a "revenge

of adolescents against the parents for having submitted to a semi-abandonment of fact? Or how to protect their own helplessness of the most confusing years of existence? Do these guys recover socially difficult and lonely?

"The victim is always the lowest," says White Betes, responsible for Psiceduca Madrid clinic specializing in disorders of adolescence. "These are difficult situations that can be treated with enough success guarantees have not yet entered adolescence. Then worse. The more you postpone the problem is less solution. Therapies are long, with a high economic cost and that sometimes takes time. The first is no problem, almost always arrive at the consultation well-placed families. The difficult thing is time. Travel a lot, are liadísimos. Say they can not believe them, because we have a frantic lifestyles is very difficult to get off. "

But he pays a high price for it. The child entangled further into the spiral of conflict and despair. The Parents are defeated and lament the misfortune of having a son. The first contact with professionals usually comes from the mother. Although both parents work, which she still finds time to enlist the help of experts. The initial lament is a common pattern, according to White Betes: "My son is a mess, is not going to class, stopped everything.'s Aggressive, insulting us and even hits us. We live in hell." Parents always blame the children. They are victims of an injustice: they have given everything for them and only get grief. As therapy progresses, looms the guilt. In the end, assume that, indeed, have given him everything except his time. And it's a minor detail.

With over a decade of experience, White Betes has learned to translate the language of teenagers: "Iros to hell", for parents means "I am very lonely. I do not want. I do not care for them. Keep me in mind; incluidme in your lives."

"To my regret," added the director of Psiceduca, "Sometimes the guys are willing to change if their parents do it too, because they are so unhappy. But the lack of time for the major spoils everything. A My recent case ended with the boy's placement in an elite school in Switzerland, because her parents found it impossible to go to therapy. "

From distance, either in a group home or a luxury boarding, the emotional bond is in serious danger, experts say. "The internship is perceived by the child as' not only have you forsaken me, but I was away from your life." The typical reaction is to close even more in your group of friends and displayed abusive and aggressive with the family.

Some professionals refer to lack of de facto parents and ill-treatment. They call this "omission negligence of duty" and a cause of deprivation of parental rights. In Spain there are 35,000 children in care by the authorities, although it is not possible to obtain data on how many of them relate to the failure of parental duty. Arturo Canalda, Children's Rights Ombudsman of the Community of Madrid, says the main cause of the absence of reliable statistics: "Every autonomy has its own system of classification of abandonment, and what is in some distress in others it is risk, and vice versa. None is required to update and specify the data, so we worked a little blind, with trust of instinct and experience. "

social pediatrician at Children's Hospital Niño Jesús García Jesús de Madrid warned the senators that agreed on the outlines the future reform of the national adoption law that "a sociopath father who is not only abandoned, mistreated or sexually abused their children, but who does parental neglect of duty." And he revealed that negligence is the second leading cause of abuse of Community of Madrid. The result of this attitude, he says, "are a serious emotional disturbance resulting from an abandonment in fact." Account

this pediatrician who also chairs the Madrid Association for the Prevention of Child Abuse: "A mother, a very successful career, came to my office to demand for child anxiety because mobile sent 1,000 messages per day. Yes 1,000. I went to his house and cabin room was

Voyager:

home cinema, mp3

, iPhone, Mp4, Wii consoles ... all. However, it was one of the children have seen homeless . His problems were a frantic call from managed care parents, who almost did not see. "After a hard and prolonged therapy, the case begins to get ready and the boy is also recovering from what pediatricians now call" the deafness of MP3 ", which damages hearing , and "arthritis metacarpophalangeal" of his right hand, resented by both sms.

Another couple who recently passed by his department in the Child Jesus could not solve the problem and finally lost custody because of parental neglect of duty. There were two executives Vegans [vegans] whose son had severe encephalopathy by lack of vitamin B12 and folic acid, "with a tremendous mental retardation."

This and the other children who have been through the same cause provision of protection services of the Community of Madrid have "hypoxic ischemic encephalopathy," which makes them dependent for life. "Sometimes, the worst problem of children are parents," says the pediatrician, who fought with the energy theory that emerged in the sixties, and still continues in some circles-that is better spent on children "time quality ", ie a short time but made from

parents,

formerly known as that" quantitative time "hours, but embittered by their mothers allegedly condition forced housewives. "Neither quantitative nor qualitative," Dr. Garcia saves. "Children need time to dry."

In this context, would not be condemning this kind of parents pointing the finger of blame? Do not remove this uncomfortable feeling that the success at work means neglecting your family? Or the reverse: children care and attention, promotion impossible, especially in the case of women. Do the existing stereotypes?

"As always, we must seek balance. But in the current circumstances is not easy," says Jesus Poveda, a psychiatrist at the Autonomous University of Madrid and a specialist in pathologies of adolescence. "The two are both perpetrators and victims. The education of children is their responsibility, but you do not know or can not do better, the conflict is assured." Many of these parents are victims, in turn, the mis-education that they received, and played hard to digest models for youth in the digital age.

"Before, teenagers were easier to live with what psychiatrists call 'factor of belonging' through the extended family and neighborhood friends. But today that rarely do, and how the real world is hostile to them seeking their membership in the virtual. We have 500 friends on Tuenti and none in the neighborhood. No good ".

Parents, according to this psychiatrist, should be helped to distinguish the necessary from the urgent." When the alarm sounds extremely serious, for example, a suicide attempt by the child-are quick to change working hours or find another job that allows them to be in the afternoon with the children. We have seen the wolf ears. " Jesus Palacios, Professor of Psychology and Education at the University of Seville, not blame or absolve anyone. Only emphasizes that" there is an upward curve of the upper middle class parents whose jobs are so engrossing that have not paid due attention to the children. When that is coupled to the problems adolescence, they have lost control of the family situation. "In such circumstances, first try that educators and psychologists remedy the problem." In the end, they themselves are asking the Administration to take charge of the children " Palacios added.

under Judge Emilio Calatayud Granada says: "The profile of the teenager who assaulted their parents or commit crimes via the Internet or mobile phone wealthy social class that has had all the material aspect and has grown up alone, without anyone with authority to set limits. "

This judge became popular in sentencing that placed the child in the place of the victim or his surroundings. If a guy stoned the windows of the school, the punishment was to clean for a few months, if he attacked a weaker partner, forcing him to live with disabilities, if he had driven drunk, to assist quadriplegics. This has achieved success in the reintegration of children, but now says kids feel a little overwhelmed by aggressive with the family and cyber offenders. Guys who are temporarily separated from their parents and sent to supervised apartments. At the same time, and if you have media that parents try to change their priorities: their children ahead of career success. "More can not do."